"To make your children capable if honesty is the beginning of education"
-John Ruskin (1819-1900)
"Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters, cannot be trusted with important ones."
- Albert Einstein
Honesty is one of the most foundational aspects of a strong trusting relationships. Without honesty trust is weak and dying. But where honesty is guaranteed trust can be strong and unwavering.
It can be tempting to lie to our kids about little things, "I'm sorry there are no more cookies in the house." There is actually a whole box but you want your child to wait till after lunch to have some.
But our children often, more often then you'd think, see through our lies or discover they are lies later.
This builds a foundation of lies, and over time as the child grows trust is destroyed. One convenient white lie at a time.
If you are truly wanting a strong trusting relationship with your kids, don't lie. Always do what you say you will, they learn to trust you through the little things.